So This Is Christmas

Merry Christmas is such an infectious feeling I like to feel that way all year around.

So if you are visiting just before Christmas, just after Christmas or even here on Christmas day I am sure you will find something of interest for you and in the spirit of Christmas.

It may be said that Christmas is no longer a celebration but this must be spoken by people that have never had trouble closing their eyes on Christmas Eve in an expectation of what maybe left for them on the carpet under the tree.

I continue to look forward to the surprise on my Grandchild's faces to this day at Christmas events.

Merry Christmas - Merry Christmas - Merry Christmas

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Getting An Ex Back - When You Have Dumped Him/Her

By Faye Swoboda

Getting an ex back is hard if you were the one being dumped. But imagine how you would feel if you were the one who did the dumping? That is the position that Aimee found herself in and she had to go about getting an ex back.

Aimee's so called friend Renee told her that her hubby Jaime had been sleeping with another woman. Without confirming the information or maybe asking Jaime about it, Aimee faced up to Jaime and accused him of having an affair. This took Jaime by complete surprise as he had no idea that the rumor was circulating, and he didn't do a good job of defending himself. Aimee unceremoniously dumped him.

A few days later, Aimee found out that Renee had been lying for her own jealous, petty reasons. Now Aimee was in a quandary. Getting an ex back was vital to her, but she also wanted to save face. Aimee called up Jaime and explained what had happened. But Jaime was in no mood to take her back. Aimee had hurt him by not trusting him and not even talking things over with him.Getting an ex back took all of Aimee's wiles.

First of all, Aimee wrote Jaime a long letter of apology. She took responsibility for what occurred and promised that it might never occur again. She reminded Jaime they had a long record together and that they had shared some beautiful times. She revealed that she didn't want to throw all of that away. She told him that the reason she acted the way she did was as she loved him and could not stand the though of his being with another lady. The thought of losing him forever was painful.

After she had mailed the letter, she didn't bother him with constant texts or telephone calls. She figured that getting an ex back following a situation like this one required that she give Jaime his space.

When she did run into Jaime, she was as nice as she may be. She worked positive memories into the conversation casually. She did not apologize any further though. She had told him both in person and in writing that she was sorry and let it go at that.

One day, Aimee got tickets for Jaime's fave band which was in the town for one concert only. She asked Jaime to go with her "just as friends." In this manner, she opened the door to a future relationship without crowding him.

Getting an ex back after you have behaved badly and dumped him is tough. Not only do you have the embarrassment of having to apologize, but you virtually have to start from the start again on the relationship. Reconstructing the trust is a key component in this period.

Jaime and Aimee did finally get back together. Jaime came to see that Aimee's outburst was the act of a jealous woman who deeply loved him. He saw it as a mistake that they could both grow from. Their relationship became stronger than ever. Aimee took the correct approach to getting an ex back.

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